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February 6th.

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Officially I have been a Findom Mistress only since 2014.

Prior to that I was a professional Dominatrix since 2011. I always felt disgusted and surprised by just how many guys out there are trawling the web slagging off proDommes and yet are clawing away at our doors begging for services. I have a short attention span for cheap, so I never played that game. Besides, I was never desperate enough for their pennies to want to play donkey carrot with them.

Before Domination I had many guys who were my benefactors for one reason or the other. I used to love the games I could play to see how quickly I could extract money from guys. My record stands at £1,000 for a bet taken within 3 hours of meeting a guy. He bet I couldn’t jiggle my butt like a stripper. He lost.

I loved it! Going around and finding guys to manipulate with my looks and effortless flirtation, making them feel like heaven while doing the breaststroke in their wallets! Discovering that what I had been doing since I knew that my breasts were lethal weapons was a ‘thing’ just made my life complete. Now I have narrowed down the selection criteria to an art, no more will he or won’t he? Now I know that he will, you will, they will, you all will! And I will wallow in it all!

Old school, new school, or just bitchy I don’t know. But what I do know is that for me there is only one way money should flow. And that is in my direction from all the guys who desire my time or attention. Guys always pay on a date, they always pay for shopping sprees, and if they want to talk to me directly they always pay. My admin slaves handle the bulk of my first line communication and send me the juicy ones. I really don’t have any time for the ‘let’s hang out friendzone guys’.

Yes and no.

Both of them obey the very simple requirement which is Total Power Exchange.

Financial Domination obeys the principle that money is a major tool of self-identity and success. To hand over this control to someone else is the ultimate surrender. Disregarding your future to better another’s. In this case someone who will keep making you re-adjust your life and energies so you can keep pouring money into a bottomless well. Chastity works along the lines of containing the most primal drive and pulling the ultimate surrender from someone one denied orgasm at a time.

For me it is such a rush to completely take over and manipulate someone. I desire for them to become more focused on the overall objective, which is to be both pleasing and amusing to me. I’m demanding. I’m unrelenting. I require complete subservience. If you are unable to get to a point of self-denial then we will have very little in common.

But I might very well mess with your head in the process.

So my ideal would be someone who is completely chaste and focused, and makes the necessary sacrifices to make my life much more comfortable. Those that feel the need to fight and resist will find themselves blocked, banned, and just ignored. Those that feel the magnetic pull of my deep brown eyes will find themselves led, teased, contained, intoxicated, and manipulated expertly.

My looks and my brain are a wonderfully deadly duo and are designed with the very simple goal of completely owning you.

You start by reading the page on Financial Domination and Paypigs.

Then you contact me on Skype to discuss whether we have any synergy. You might want to take my Quiz first just to be sure we are looking for the same thing.

If you satisfy my criteria then I will direct you to the application form where you can fill out a more comprehensive application.

As much as I choose it to cost.

Silly muppet.

A financial Domination slave must realise that he is well and truly owned in every aspect. My questionnaire makes sure that you give me juicy deets on yourself so that you can’t slither away when it suits you. After all, being the pillar of the community like you are….

And besides…

I’m not cheap!

But then again your life is so boring that to try and slither back into mundane would surely be far more painful than the adrenaline-filled highs you will experience once I have you firmly by the wallet.

All payments will reflect as Infinity Solutions 365 Ltd. You can even set up a standing order if you like so it looks like you’re paying a bill. Consultancy services, computer repairs, whatever. What you say is up to you.

Soon I’ll be set up to take payments via credit card. Check back to find out more about this. I’m making it much easier and more deliciously exquisite to rinse you. So you have no excuse.

Purchases of audio and video files, as well as physical goods are processed by CCBill on behalf of Infinity Solutions 365 Ltd.

Online payment through the site.

Bank transfer, even international.

Bank deposit.

And shortly credit card remote payments.

Ffo kcuf!

Of course you may. I always prefer you pay me more and negotiate your other bills. But if you reduce your payments then I will just add the difference owed to the following months. And charge a 10% loan interest per month. Okay?

By keeping your phone/emails/bank account more secure! Duh!

Cash baby cash.

Meet me on Skype, arrange an ATM meet, or just put the bills direct into my bank account.

Of course you may. You can set up a standing order straight from your bank account to mine at intervals to amuse me. Or you can pay it as a bill regularly through the site.

Of course

Not every time you send me money no. Discreet. I don’t even need to know who you are.

Cash in my bank account. Ask me for the details.

Of course you may. I accept all major currencies, and the places I travel to loads I am happy to take money in.

On this site however all payments are set up in GBP so you have to pay in that.

To be a cuckold you need to demonstrate:

  • Complete obedience.
  • Selflessness
  • Ability to deny yourself any physical gratification while making me happy.

What do you think?

Hell fucking no! Look at yourself, would you fuck that?

As long as they are servicing me.

It all depends on my mood and what they look like etc. I want to talk to both of you prior to the cuckolding session and decide if it works for me or not. If it doesn’t then no. If it does there are strict rules you must both follow. I will let you know then.

Because you’ve cultivated this dumb alter-ego that you assume best defines manhood for you.

All your inner conflicts will magically melt away once you taste that first drop of the salty stuff on your tongue. Believe me.

Hahahahaha!

Seriously?

Hahahahaha!

We need to get you a slot at the Apollo. Comedian!

Of course. Prior to confirming the session do take the time to see if your fetishes or kinks show up in my Session Activities page. If you cannot see them just send me an email and ask. I will send a brief response to confirm if I can do the things you request or not.

I session with whoever I choose at my discretion. If I am ignoring you then chances are you rubbed me up the wrong way. So I would strongly suggest you take a hint.

Bank deposit or transfer. I should shortly be set up to take credit card payments too.

If you hover over the Session tab in the site header bar you should be able to see a drop down menu. This leads you to the Domination Session Activities where you can see what sessions I am available for in person or online.

Yes I do. At present I do not see MM couples, but MF, FF are welcome to contact me.

I conduct Domination sessions in many different places.

I am based in North Kent, but take sessions in London.

I travel infrequently around the UK.

I travel loads so I am regularly in Antwerp, Bangkok, Berlin, Dubai, and Zurich. Check my tour dates page for my most recent dates.

For face to face Domination sessions this is normally Monday to Friday 10am to 8pm GMT.

Online sessions are normally Monday to Friday 12 noon to 10pm GMT and Saturday all day till whenever.

When I am on tour my times are far more flexible.

My rates vary depending on where you meet me. But they begin at £250 an hour. Check the shop categories for a list of the sessions I offer as well as the rates for each of these.

Well I won’t have sex with you if that’s what you’re hoping.

I am a Black Mistress, and my services are exclusively non-sexual with you. Cuckolding sessions are the exception as you get to see me having sex. But not with you. Never with you.

I will use you for my amusement. Fetish only. Depends on my mood, depends on the areas you are curious to explore.

You might be royalty, but you have to take a seat and watch your true Queen rule.

Of course I will come to see you. But send the sluts away on holiday. I demand your undivided…

If you live in a country that is not on my list of tour locations then you can fly me out to session with you. I am versatile and my Domination sessions take into account the subtleties of the D/s dynamic so I can session from either a fully equipped Dungeon or using items found in your home or local hardware store. I am very flexible. I am very creative.

If you want to explore what a session entails then book a Skype session with me. We can even play out a few scenarios prior to committing to a real world session.

Of course.

Domination is more subtle than simply leaping on someone and pounding the crap out of them. The painsluts are into pain for its ability to unlock a blockage. Even then they have different ways in which they explore this.

I cater to a wide range of fetishes and desires. These are detailed on this page. If your area of interest is not detailed here why not send me an email and ask me if this is something I will be catering to sometime soon. You might be surprised.

Naked and on their knees. I love this!

No limits and taboo sessions play with things that are seldom touched on in general play sessions. I do cater to these, but of course only if we have played several times before. I do have things that make my stomach churn. But in general I am pretty unflappable.

Please note I reserve the right to refuse any session request at my own discretion.

I never go in blind with someone on the first session. But after a few times it becomes more comfortable, you begin to trust me more. And I begin to be able to read your body language better.

Of course we can hang out after our Domination session. My dinner rate is a mere £400 for up to 4 hours of my time. No kink or sex involved though. Just hanging out. Of course

There are oh so many ways you can do this!

Read my page on Financial Domination and Paypigs for a better idea on how you can do this.

You can pay for your session by bank transfer or a cash deposit. I will shortly be able to take credit card payments virtually. Bookmark the site and come back for more details on this.

Through this site. Look under the shop categories for my Skype sessions or Telephone Chat sessions, and choose the one best suited to you.

Yes it is very genuine.

I have very high standards for my personal slaves. I expect you to make me your new vocation in life. If you are not ready to do this then I have no interest in you. If you are not serious then you will find me intimidating; and I will be more than slightly disappointed in you.

All applicants to the personal slave programme are expected to jump over certain hurdles. You will only pass through certain barriers once you have successfully completed my requirements. So don’t fail me once you have passed the first stage.

No.

Yes it is. As long as you are able and willing to travel to the UK to see me, or fly me out to where you are regularly then this is no problem. Remember though that you are my slave, I am not ‘your Mistress’, so if my times do not accommodate coming out to you then you will have to make plans to find yourself at my feet each month.

Because I’m worth it.

Again, if you can give me a convincing penis related emergency then I can consider this option. Early chastity emergency release fee is £500 or 10 times the remaining number of days of lockup for that month. Whichever is greater.

When you go under lockdown this is following the initial assessment period of 6 weeks of mental chastity. You will have reported to me that you have managed to survive through this period of chastity. So your emergency had better be damn good. Because you will be heavily fined for it.

Sure thing. But this will accrue to the following months until you pay it off. Of course.

I encourage you to keep an online blog that is open to public view. Google and WordPress both have good blogger services. Make me aware when you have posted up some new stuff. If I like your post I will reblog or repost excerpts from here, so do make it as detailed as you can. Also include pictures. I like pictures.

On my programme as well you will get weekly Skype sessions with me so you can touch base and let me know how you are getting on.

Distraction.

Whatever you do when you’re horny, don’t think about sex. Go for a run, take a cold shower, clean the house, take long deep breaths and focus on something like gummi bears in a field of liquorice, anything to take your mind off what your penis is doing. Besides, the fact that you will most likely be on fire will do tonnes to help the lust go away.

Whilst some guys say they can stand at the urinal and use their chastity device with no problems I would still advise you begin to familiarise yourself with the cubicles. Less mess.

Unless you are only wearing it to sessions with me then yes you will wear it 24/7.

Not for me no.

Your micropenis or mega penis is none of my concern.

It might be for you though.

The range of devices that I favour for long-term use are the CB-x ones. They cater for penises from roughly 2 inches in length to about 3 ½ inches in length. At present they do not cater for lengths outside of this sadly. Do email them and make a request though, I am sure if enough of us do then they might just create a new one for you large/small guys. Too bad if you are a show-er and not a grower.

This is not a problem at all. There is no extra charge either for this. You can book a session through the site as normal and pay for the number of hours you require. In the case where I am mentoring or tutoring your partner then I am more than happy for him/her to sit in on the session. If however you would both like to be Dominated then I do charge extra for this. I am also happy to answer any questions you both may have during the time of our session together, as well as show you some of the practicalities involved in a session.

I do indeed. Book a Skype session with me and I will be happy to speak with both of you about what chastity means to you and how you can explore it.

This is really something you need to bring up with me when we first communicate. We can set up a plan that allows for regular unlocking when you go home at the weekend for example. Or we can have a remote locking solution catered to you if you are too far away to meet me in person.

Please note this option is only available if you are on a Chastity Keyholding Service arrangement with me already.

Every relationship is different and there is no one way in which to do this. Some will prefer the more direct approach, whereas others will favour more a gentle exploration of certain aspects not so obviously related to being locked away. Book a Skype session with me and let us discuss your relationship either with you or with both of you.

How can you not? Most relationships involve some degree of chastity for one party or the other.

I would like to state very clearly right now that when in a relationship the notion of power is not absolute. So even if you are the designated keyholder you should be responsible with this. Don’t use your newfound powers as a means of manipulation. Be bossy, don’t be a cow. Remember, we all have different languages of love. You should aim to show your partner that you still value them even though you have chosen to keep them locked away. Remember too that affection is not limited to sexual intercourse. Rediscover the things about them that you fell in love with.

Maybe there are virility or erectile dysfunction issues. Performance anxiety is very real for a lot of men, so find ways to enhance the closeness versus the opportunity to get a warm one in you. Use chastity as an opportunity to have ‘sex’ without the pressure of performance expectations.

I definitely think it can. One of the passion-killers of long-term relationships is the lack of ‘new-ness’ over time. Even where the sex is good, it can become predictable or even expected. When the tease and denial aspect of chastity come into play however, the party that is locked up has to ‘play the game’ as set by the keyholder. For married couples this can be a seriously powerful and erotic thing because you have learnt how to push each others buttons really well so the tease is expert. Right?

Now, if the communication that occurred prior to the locking up was in the interests of both parties, there can be a lot of mutual excitement from the not knowing what to expect or even knowing that if they want certain rewards then they will have to perform certain tasks.

Every keyholder has a different experience, but I know for my part when I know that I hold someone’s key there is an intense power rush. Knowing that I have the power to free or contain them only makes me want to up the ante and push their sexual buttons all the more. I can only imagine what that would be like for a long term coupling.

Try it with your husband/wife today. Take a period of mental chastity for a week or whatever period works for you. In that time aim to talk to each other for at least ten minutes undisturbed a day. Go back to the small things you used to do when you were new to each other and flirting – sexy eye contact, light touches, sexy talk. But no sexual gratification. If you are the ‘keyholder’ take this opportunity to try out your bossy side and tell him/her exactly what you want them to do to please you. It doesn’t have to be sexual, it could even be giving you a massage, cleaning the house, taking you on a date. There is a definite – and very sexy – power exchange in all of this. After all, they know that if they don’t give in to your requests, it might jeopardise their chances of release.

I do blog about this and other matters, so make sure to check my blog and bookmark it.

No.

What kind of penis-related emergency might you encounter? Tell me.

Give me a convincing one and I will consider giving you a key.

Despite what you might think, the chastity device is relatively discreet. There are long term wearers of chastity devices and this causes no major problems. If you are involved in contact sports there might be a bit of an issue there. But other than that the major issue you might have is if you wear well fitted trousers. You might find it more comfortable to have slightly larger pants that allow that extra give in the front.

Personally, I advocate that you take the time to invest in a chastity device of your own. I do have devices that I use for filming purposes, but I am not keen on giving these out for longer than a short scene. Hygiene is a big issue with these things. So make an investment in one just for you. I recommend the Cb-x range. Ask me if you can’t find them online.

Once you have purchased your device I am available to do your initial fitting yes. If you would like some helpful pointers on how to fit your device then you can read my blog where I will add relevant titles under the ‘Chastity’ category. Or you can book a Skype cam session with me to discuss this in detail prior to making your device purchase.

The fitting session is offered as a regular session booking with me wherever in the world I am. My session fee is for my time, not for whatever activity is conducted in that time.

At present I do not stock chastity devices but I am hoping to be able to sell these direct to you soon. Bookmark this site and keep checking back.

There are many reasons why people choose to take a vow of chastity. Maybe you struggle with your sexual urges, maybe you feel you powerless due to your sexual desires, maybe you just want to try a period of chastity to see if you can do it.

Yes it is frustrating. But if you are determined and stick with it you will find that you develop a new sense of inner focus. I believe the venture into chastity should be directed or led by someone who can be firm when you falter. You will find that your mindset changes and you might find certain things that worried or occupied your time before will no longer exert the same level of control over you. What’s more, under my guidance at least, you will become more focused and productive. Who knows, you might even begin taking out the garbage!

No.

While you may feel that this is something exciting to try out and you might get incredibly horny at the thought etc it is not always so straightforward or easy. Like most exciting new resolutions after you have made the commitment you will still need to stick with it even when it gets hard. And believe me, it will get very hard.

I require a minimum commitment of both time and money from you. Once you allow me in I will very quickly seize control of your thoughts and your actions. I would say prepare yourself, but I doubt anything could prepare you for me.